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Parents, Grandparents, Guardians

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Parenting Just Got Easier With "Daily Reminders"!

START your day with a nutritious breakfast in the center of our "SHKmats". Our "SHKmats" will motivate family and/or initiate discussions at your dining tables.

Place a few "SHKposters" on your walls to remind you to do your daily workout. Place our resources in high traffic areas throughout your house.

Please visit our STORE.

Also, investigate the SHK website. Peruse topics and discuss relevant ones with your children.

For More Info:

email- skotkosky@safehealthykids.org

text/call Stan Kotkosky at 714-299-8070

Parental Basics- (Re-read this whenever you are angry)

Your children not only need to be loved but also emotionally and physically feel your genuine warmth and affection on a daily basis. Good parenting will keep stability in the home and increase chances of sucess in the classroom.

It may be challenging,but "parents should lead by example". Being a positive role model sets the footprint for your children to follow in your path. Your personal characteristics such as integrity, responsibility, cooperation, kindness and self-control will be constantly monitored by your children.

What you say and do will make a lasting impression. Most children will cherish those tender and heartfelt moments. Unfortunately, they will recall your outbursts, rages and any physical abuse.

Your home environment should promote the development of intellectual curiosity. Select games, actvities and electronic devices that have educational value. An inspiring and cheerful atmosphere at home will deter children from anti-social behavior including food, drug and alcohol abuse. Quality family time activities can reduce psychological stress including anxiety and depression.

REMEMBER! You cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. Spoiling a child is the consequence of giving a child things in place of love. Things like material posessions and leniency that may lead to consequences down the road.

Get involved in your child’s life. You will have to rearrange your priorities to manage your child's needs. Be cautious regarding your child's wants. Do not be impulsive when purchasing material items. Consider whether they will or will not stimulate his/her emotional, physical and intellectual growth.

Setting Rules is essential in managing your child's behavior. By properly managing their behavior at a young age, the child may continue with a similar disposition as they progress through life.
If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren’t around. Any time, day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself. Be consistent when enforcing rules. As they seek independence and self-reliance as pre-adults, parents may need more flexibility when enforcing previous rules.

Teens will exhibit independence that can easily be viewed as rebellious and unacceptable. It's normal for older teens to view themselves as adults and now they are severing the "leash" that use to bond parent and child. Avoid any harsh discipline and all physical altercations.

Encouraging and accepting your child's independence will help them develop a sense of self-direction. Many parents find that independence is temporary so don't alter their bedroom too much as they may wish or need to relocate there after college.

Respect your children and treat them with courtesy and politeness. This is always your goal even during times of discipline. Be a good listener by making eye contact and avoiding distractions. Avoid demeaning and abusive language. Words can hurt, affect your child's self-worth and have negative psychological effects for years to come.

Be proactive by considering the consequences of all of your decisions. THINK IT OVER! Will your decisions help you to bond or alienate you and your children?