Bullying - Addressing Bullying Behavior

Parents, School staff, Organizations have Roles

Make sure the child knows what the problem behavior is. Young people who bully must learn their behavior is wrong and harms others. 

Show kids that bullying is taken seriously. Calmly tell the child that bullying will not be tolerated. Model respectful behavior when addressing the problem.

Work with the child to understand the reasons he or she is bullied.

For example:

Use consequences to teach. Consequences that involve learning or building empathy can help prevent future bullying. School staff should remember to follow the "guidelines in their student code of conduct" and other policies in developing consequences and assigning discipline.

For example, the child who bullied can:

Involve the kid who bullied in making amends or repairing the situation. The goal is to help them see how their actions affect others.

For example, the child can:

Avoid strategies that don’t work or have negative consequences.

Follow-up. After the bullying issue is resolved, continue finding ways to help the child who bullied to understand how what they do affects other people. For example, praise acts of kindness or talk about what it means to be a good friend. 

Support Bystanders Who Witness Bullying

Even if kids are not bullied or bullying others they can be affected by bullying. Many times, when they see bullying, they may not know what to do to stop it. They may not feel safe intervening at that moment. They can be advised as to the other steps they can take.